Do you have negative feeling related to birth?
Would you like to find empowerment through creating a positive way forward?
- Breath and body work
- Holistic Counselling
- Mediating (clinical review) Meetings with your clinicians may be possible
Helping you to find closure through understanding accepting and letting-go
Paul Golden is a Midwife Nurse Counsellor with background in natural therapies
See: Active Birth Face Book page for more information and http://www.linkedin.com/in/goldenpaul
Three things to focus on for healing include:
- Breath and body work (to release negative emotions memories trauma) – This can by yoga-based, rebirthing, shiatsu, massage any useful physical therapy to use as a tool to release trauma. This can simply be long walks and self reflection. Using a therapist is not always essential.
- Counselling – Talking it through (not to reinforce the trauma but to find openings to create a new narrative using open questions like how did that feel? / what would you have liked to happen? / how could that be done? what if …. x y z .. happened instead how would that have been? etcetera
- Mediating with clinicians and reviewing the clinical notes to increase understanding (perhaps appreciating the fear within the institution and practitioners) thereby increasing acceptance and allow letting-go.
Meditation techniques help us to be in the moment. Watching our breathing develops awareness of that activity. This provides opportunities to become aware of emotional and physical needs by listening to our bodies.
This allows acceptance of what is and seeing the good. Then there is a chance for change of feelings perceptions and narratives.
Narratives means how we tell the story e.g. of birth and of our lives.
We can choose negative words and keep the destructive cycle going or we can simply choose a new narrative with positive words related to the experience, our bodies and minds will respond to the new positive ‘programming’. We may not change the birth but we can change how we look at it.
Accept what is then see the good.