Birth – A Human Process

Birth  – The Human Process

Everyone is invited to create a safe and friendly space around birth for motherbaby partners families and birthing practitioners.

Center Gaja, Dunajska cesta, 113, Ljubljana  19.07.2017 18.00

The theme is around building friendly relationships between everyone involved in birth. We can explore the following:

  • Do everything to be sure everyone understands your wishes and responsibilities
  • How do you see your role….
  • To engage fully in your process is to allow others to be in theirs
  • By owning our own process we respect others to have theirs.  It is okay to disagree
  • How we choose to disagree can affect our relationships.
  • Choose wisely – Consider the consequences of any decision
  • Every decision has to be accepted by everyone in the process by understanding reasons and choices
  • Trust your Intuition and your Knowledge
  • Are you engaged in the birth process or who are you if you are not engaged?
  • Letting go and going with the flow can empower creative paths to the best outcome.

 

If you are a Doula Doctor Midwife or another interested in birth we suggest considering the following questions:

  1. Consider who you are and what you wish for
  2. How do you see your role…

Come and meet us to enjoy an evening of sharing ideas and building relationships

Paul Golden (Midwife Mediator Body worker) & Svetlana Votiakova (Perinatal Psychologist Doula)

For booking (free) please contact:     votiakovasvetlana@gmail.com

+386 51 869085

 

 

 

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Human Rights in Childbirth HRIC Italy 2017

Anna Maria Rossetti is the principal for postgraduate midwifery throughout Italy based at their school in Florence. 

Their emphasis is on physiological birth. Respecting the nature of hormones anatomy physiology movement in labour, and women’s rights. 

Their school was founded and run by the respected Midwifery author Verena Schmidt. 

This conference had a mostly Italian flavour with osteticia or midwives from across Italy.  Gail Tully from the USA was there teaching spinning babies with breech workshops.

The Spanish home birth Midwifery Inma presented along with neonatologist Massimo with great passion in support of babies rights. A women’s rights lawyer joined us for a morning with plans to follow up on the united nations reporting to highlight areas of improvement for the Italian maternity system. 

A few independent midwives were present. They face great challenges, yet continue to provide a individual service to women and their families. One worked in the UK until the regulator stopped all independent missives from practicing in December 2016. 

Anyone interested in future courses in Florence should connect with SEAO direzioneseao@gmail.com

Mediation and Hric were presented by me with the use of drama and aikido. 

Preventing and resolving conflict are useful in all areas including maternity care.

Osteopathic and energetic aspects were presented by Diego. 

These global lessons can benefit birthing everywhere. 

Awe of Birth – Manchester 1st April

Rights of Midwives will be presented and discussed with audience involvement at this conference.  We will have time to answer questions and aim to include some role play.  There will be more Legal Rights for Midwives sessions throughout the UK EU ( Florence Italy May 27 & 29, Russia St Petersberg in June … UK London Liverpool Leeds Midlands and more …

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Finding Harmony in Conflict  =  Mediating Solutions with Equal power sharing

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Rights of the nurse and midwife

Brief extract of book by Paul Golden

‘We only have the rights we stand up for’

Midwives the same Human Rights as every human being plus additional rights and responsibilities.  Their professional registration regulated their code of conduct and imposes a special duty of care.

When a nurse or midwife is challenged they have the right to

Take Time and take advice.

Right to a fair process

(This includes knowing what the allegations and who the accusers are).

Invite the investigators to give an agenda including

  • what areas of concern and
  • what questions they will like answers to.

Nurses’ & Midwives’ Rights include

  1. Human Rights (see brief notes below) 
  1. Civil Law Rights (Contract, Torts, Employment, Health and Safety Laws) 
  1. Employment Law Rights e.g. unfair dismissal, breaches in legislation i.e. failure to ensure safe work place by allowing bullying etc.
  1. Criminal Law actions related to Midwives Rights e.g. perjury where falsified statements are relied upon in any judicial setting including the Regulatory Authority hearings (NCM)
  1. Witness (& Expert Witness Statements)

o   Collect Evidence to show how your practice is safe.  This includes statements from colleagues, clients and other professionals such as academics.

  1. Professional Supervision – engage in this to demonstrate you reflect in and on your practice, to show how you are safe and take opportunity to improve your practice through reflection.  This can be meeting with a professional supervisor (some offer this via Skype) to discuss practice issues and professional development.  It is supervisee led and centred.

1 Human Rights

These include the United Nations Convention on Human Rights.  These have been adapted into local laws in the UK with the Human Rights Act 1998.

Article 3

The Right not to suffer degrading and unusual punishment or torture,

(e.g. excessive and unreasonable delays that cause unbearable stress, public and or, professional humiliation etc.)  The claimant must show they suffered significant harm.  Simply raising this as a possible claim can remind the investigating body and their bosses (usually the NMC the Ombudsman – PHSO et al) that they may be accountable in court and the impact of their conduct must be respectful and humane.

Article 8

The Right to Family and Private Life

This right must not be interfered with unnecessarily by a state body eg) the NMC.

This is the widest and most useful along with Article 6.

Article 6

The Right to Fair Trial / fair process with investigations

(e.g. to know what the allegations are and who the accusers are).

Investigations need to be:

Proportionate and flexible

If there is some training needs identified they should be proportionate and relevant to the findings and not go outside of this.

Timely – cases need to be heard in a timely manner, and if they are protracted with cancellations and other unreasonable behavior then a challenge must be made to the organisation and can be made in the civil courts.  Where the delays are causing financial loss this will be easier to show to the courts rather than emotional harm.  The loss needs to be measureable and directly caused by the acts or omission (unreasonable delays).

There is a presumption of innocence.  If the investigators appear to word things as if the registrant is guilty that is a sign they have pre judged the case which may be biased and cause further disadvantage.

There must be an opportunity to defend allegations.  Calmly assert your rights and you will get positive response.  If you need to take a civil action you may do this as a self-litigant to save on legal fees.  It can be simpler and easier and more rewarding than not taking action.  Be proactive.  Stand up for your rights.  It is all about creating opportunities to take the initiative.

Take your time to respond and take professional third party advice.

Contact me for more individual information and advice.

mandalamediation@gmail.com

Internaltional Midwives 2016

Thank you for doing what you do, for being who you are, for providing the best care in difficult circumstances.
I am mindful of you and other positive midwifery practices that are brave enough to be with women with their choices
We need courageous role models least we forget and think coercion and abuse are the norm forgetting our own commitment to women their babies and their families and repalce it with a misguided loyalty to the sytem that feeds us.

The systematic abuse of midwives by some employers regulators media and even some consumers becomes so familiar that many midwives might complain about it yet stay in the abusive relationship out of familarity and misguided security.  Everyone wants to be safe.
The midwifery training gives a  student opportunities to see variations in practice.  The compassionate, the effective contrasted with those less so.  We build upon these experiences to make our own way.  We emulate best practices finding others to share ideas and reflections
Fear.  This is the single most corruptive factor.  it appears to justify all unnecessary interventions and controls.  Fear is an opportunity for courage.  Yes there are real risks with pregnancy and birth as with life.  We take precautions where possible yet would we use a seat belt that cut us in half in an accident?  Would we be so risk averse as to never go outside?

How do we release fear?
First with: Awareness then, by taking responsibility for our choices.

We all know our own bodies and minds better than anyone else.  We have all the resources  within us when we listen to our inner knowledge or intuition then balance this with knowledge from others such as research.  However much fear appears contagious we do always have choices.  We can look at the risks and benefits of doing or not doing something and use the rationale mind.  We can use intuition.  For some faith is an important part of their decision making processes.  For some their culture and extended family exercise strong influences.  Ultimately, we deicide.  We say yes or no.  We may negotiate.  We can walk away.  A choice that does not appear to be a choice in many circumstances.  Still a choice.  Doing nothing is often a brave choice as it can be difficult to justify.  (Why justify?)

The Court of public and legal opinion demand rationale which is in keeping with the group or herd consciousness.  Yet we see many variations and interpretations of laws, contrasting cases and individual beliefs in what is best.  We can use these to support our own ideas and practices.  All we need is to appear, or create the appearance of, reasonableness.  That means, another in a similar situation would have done the same.  Then get this in writting from a colleague.  This can be called expert witness opinion or simply peer support.  Look up similar cases that demonstrate the same point and verify your reasonableness.  Much of this applies to the women and to the midwives.  We are all judged by others.  We have done it to ourselves and to others.  Awareness of this brings choices as we responsibly choose to support and tolerate each others’ choices.  Awareness brings the freedom to be creative and the courage to follow the individual situation.

A regulator or employer may seek to sanction someone who has gone outside the norm.  This is an opportunity which can be welcomed instead of feared.  The opportunity to show how your rationale was the best choice at the time, what has been reflected upon and learned.  This shared body of knowledge is how the midwifery profession progresses repersenting all women not just those we make fit a particular model or culture of care.

A coroner will make recommendations to improve safety by learning from individual cases.  Unfortunately coroner’s are sometimes pursuaded by public opinion and fear rather than facts.  Any midwife or woman criticised by a coroner can show a higher court thier rationale and overturn a coroners report.

Fear of court?  This is an opportunity when other avenues have been exhasuted such as mediated debate on an issue.  By showing how the situation was reasonable and the other view was unreasonable the case will set a precedent and shine a light for others to follow.

Tolerance of differences is encouraged with cultural diversity yet not so much with midwifery practice.  Staying within the herd is ‘safer’.  those straying outside have to justify their actions and non-actions so much more.  Or do they?  Not if we judge less and tolerate more.  Ask ourselves, were we there in that situation with all the context and history that led to a particular decision?

Supporting each other even when we disagree is the essence of our interrelatedness as a family of midwives.

I celebrate midwives women their families and our entire global communities as we all work together.

Paul Golden
Midwife (Global)
Mediator (Employment and Regulatory Law)
http://www.linkedin.com/in/goldenpaul

 

Birth Healing

Birth Healing

Milla BIRTH with supportMilla birth

Do you have negative feeling related to birth?
Would you like to find empowerment through creating a positive way forward?

 Breath and body work
 Holistic Counselling
 Mediating (clinical review) Meetings with your clinicians may be possible

Helping you to find closure through understanding accepting and letting-go

Contact:  activebirth@hotmail.com

Paul Golden is a Midwife Nurse Counsellor with background in natural therapies

See: http://www.expertmidwife.wordpress.

http://www.linkedin.com/in/goldenpaul

For BIRTH HEALING focus on:

1.  Breath and body work
This is to release negative emotions / memories / trauma.
This can yoga-based, rebirthing, shiatsu, massage anything to use as a tool to release trauma.

2. Counselling
Talking it through (not to reinforce the trauma but to find openings to create a new narrative using open questions like how did that feel? / what would you have liked to happen? /  how could that be done? what if …. x y z .. happened instead how would that have been? etcetera

3.  Mediating with clinicians and reviewing the clinical notes to increase understanding (perhaps appreciating the fear within the institution and practitioners) thereby getting answers, explanations, apologies and increasing acceptance facilitating letting-go.

Finally, any Meditation techniques help us to be in the moment.
This allows acceptance of what is and seeing the good.  Then there is a chance for change of feelings perceptions and narratives.

Try using positive language when describing the birthing story and see how this feels.  Ask your body questions and see what you can, and need to, learn from it.

Narratives means how we tell the story (of birth and of our lives)
We can choose negative words and keep the destructive cycle going or we can simply choose a new narrative with positive words related to the experience, our bodies and minds will respond to the new positive ‘programming’.  We may not change the birth but we can change how we look at it.  This affects our healing journey.

Accept what is then see the good.